How to Offer Services When Someone Inbox Me?

alright, this is one of the most common issue that I also encountered myself when I came into social media marketing and started helping people in Facebook groups. Here and there, I started getting messages from random people from various countries wherever I performed engagement so they inboxed me to help them for "free" most of the time, because either they did not see my value or considered me a random guy with some knowledge only so I'm going to share with you some tips and advice which I learned during my journey but first of all let see how it feels and aligns with your issue too so you can feel connected!

Do you feel confuse when someone message you regarding how to initiate conversation with them?

Is it because you are an empath and feel very emotional and pressure to help someone in trouble. And it will surely happen that you feel empathy and it will become a hurdle between your mentoring & coaching business because you want to charge for your expert advice and people want to eat your brain for free leaving you in emotional wounds.

Your emotional traumas are leading you in darkness and forcing you to keep helping for free while your family suffer and you also feel emotionally stress because your online mentoring business is not proceeding as you intend and desire on the go based on your decades of experiences.

Stop giving too much information, guidance or help free of cost by giving your "personal time", you are not the servant of anyone but a service provider who helps those who value you as the expert and willing to pay for your expert guidance. Take charge of your life and start asking payment with full confidence.

Here are some example messages that I received:

1) Aoa sir I need guidance
I did MBA but no job
I have done work as content writer
What skill should I focus on?

2) Aoa, zeeshan, koi aisa onkine kam ho sakta hy jo main USA main reh k kr sakta hoon....
Waiting for your reply

3) salam
m confusd about freelancing

4) Aslamu Alikum
Theme download kaise krty wordpress sy?

Now based on above incoming messages:

1) is asking for advice
2) is asking for answer
3) need clarity from confusion
4) want to know how to technical guidance

Each issue is different and may require different pricing but goes into same -> you can give zoom mentoring and guide them all but the issue is same you feel stuck to "start initiation for sale"

Using Fiverr gigs is easier, you don't feel emotional attachment.. but as freelancer and consider other as prospect in problem who need help and willing to pay...on fb you don't know about incoming person..they waste your time after conversation like i don't have money, i cannot afford etc..cuz they don't see your value and think you are a random stranger..since your profile is locked too.

You need help here step by step how to start initiation and lead into sell FIRST then help them else not even a single message of waste of time to show them you are someone sitting like a beggar for their money..

I understand the challenge you're facing with valuing your time and expertise while also feeling empathetic towards those seeking help. It's important to find a balance between offering genuine assistance and ensuring your efforts are valued.

Here's a step-by-step approach to help you initiate and lead into a sale while maintaining a professional and empathetic demeanor:

1. Clarify Your Value:

Before engaging in any conversation, remind yourself of the value you provide through your expertise and mentoring. Recognize that your time and knowledge are valuable and deserving of compensation.

2. Set Expectations Upfront:

When someone reaches out to you, kindly and professionally state that you offer mentorship services and that there is a fee associated with in-depth assistance. Emphasize the benefits they'll gain from your guidance.

For example:

"Hello! I appreciate your interest in seeking guidance. I offer personalized mentoring sessions to provide you with comprehensive solutions. These sessions are designed to deliver actionable insights and expert advice. If you're interested in diving deeper, I'd be happy to discuss the details and how I can assist you."

3. Qualify Their Intentions:

Before delving into a detailed conversation, ask a qualifying question that helps determine their seriousness and commitment. This can help you filter out those who may not be genuinely interested in your services.

For example:

"Before we proceed, could you share a bit more about your goals and what you're looking to achieve through mentoring? This will help me understand how I can best assist you."

4. Mention the Process:

Explain how the mentoring process works, including the steps to initiate a session and the associated cost. This sets clear expectations from the beginning.

For example:

"To ensure you receive the best guidance, I offer one-on-one mentoring sessions through [Zoom/WhatsApp/etc.]. Each session is tailored to your specific needs and comes with a fee of [Your Pricing]. If you're ready to embark on this journey, I'm here to support you."

5. Provide a Teaser:

Give them a taste of the value they'll receive during a paid session. Offer a brief insight or tip related to their query that demonstrates your expertise.

For example:

"Absolutely! To give you a glimpse of the guidance I can provide, here's a quick tip: [Share a valuable tip related to their question]. If you're eager for more personalized insights, I'm here to guide you further."

6. Offer a Call to Action:

End your message with a call to action that encourages them to take the next step and initiate the paid session.

For example:

"If you're ready to take your journey to the next level, feel free to reach out, and we can get started with a transformative mentoring session."

Remember, maintaining a balance between empathy and professionalism is key. By clearly communicating your value and the benefits of your services, you're setting the foundation for a successful mentoring relationship while ensuring your time is respected.

Now hold on....

if you even want to go one step ahead and don't want to bother exchanging messages then here is one-fit formula message that can play the trick so you can set clear boundaries specially if people from Pakistan are bugging you for free advice as it is very common here to waste time of others if you don't show you are an expert.

EXAMPLE MESSAGE (feel free to customize it according to your need)

Greetings! Thank you for reaching out and seeking guidance. I appreciate your interest in my expertise.

I offer personalized mentoring sessions designed to provide actionable insights, guidance, and support in areas such as career development, life decisions, freelancing, and more.

If you're ready to take a proactive step towards achieving your goals, I'm here to assist you. Each mentoring session is tailored to your needs and comes at a fee of [Your Pricing]. This investment ensures you receive dedicated attention and valuable insights.

To initiate a mentoring session, please follow these steps:

  1. Deposit the session fee to my local JazzCash number [Your JazzCash Number].
  2. Once the payment is made, send me a screenshot of the payment receipt.
  3. We'll then schedule a mentoring session through a platform convenient for you, whether it's WhatsApp chat, audio call, or Zoom meeting.

This streamlined process allows us to focus on your needs and ensure a productive mentoring experience. I'm committed to your growth and am here to support you every step of the way.

If you're ready to move forward or have any further questions, please let me know. Your success is my priority.

Best regards,
Zeeshan Arshad


Hope this article will help you solve out most of your confusion dealing with random strangers online.

Date Published: Aug 13, 2023


Zeeshan Arshad

Zeeshan Arshad is a #177 vWorker bestselling developer, freelancing expert, and host of The True God Show. Zeeshan writes and speaks on personal development, freelancing, religions, gods, spirituality, miracles and social issues. As an instructor at Udemy, the world's largest online learning platform, Zeeshan reaches 45k+ international students with his online courses. He has appeared on Interview Series sponsored by Rehan Foundation, Institute Of Peace and a part of Connected Pakistani and has been featured in book "Rules of Thumb", authored by Tom Parker, USA. Through his shows, articles, answers and videos, Zeeshan help people solve their confusions, problems and challenges.


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